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Becoming More of Who You Want To Be, With Khanyisa Mnyaka

Meet queer coach and content creator, Khanyisa Mnyaka…

Khanyisa Mnyaka wants to know: what do you want to do with this life?

Knowing what you want is the first step.

Because once you define what you want, you can start taking steps that align with that.

And it’s not just about money, career ambition, or how you will be remembered after you’re gone. - It’s about become better people inside.


During the interview Khanyisa and I discuss:

  • How to build self-esteem…
  • How to love yourself in spite of your shortcomings…
  • How to move forward when you’ve been cheated on and betrayed…
  • How to become more self-assertive…
  • How to get past the superficial in dating…
  • How to ask the right questions early in dating, if you’re serious about making a relationship work with them…
  • How to take the first steps towards progress, when you’re stuck and starting from zero… AND
  • How to make sure everything you do communicates that you love yourself…

Check out these books that Khanyisa recommended during the interview:

Learn more about Khanyisa Mnyaka and follow her on social media:

Khanyisa Mnyaka is a trauma-informed relationship coach, author and entrepreneur. She helps women cultivate radical self-love in order for them to show up empowered in all areas of their lives and intimate relationships. Khanyisa lives in Austin, TX with partner Indy and their puppy, Oliver. If she’s not working, you’ll find her biking around Austin, or running around a dog park with Oliver.

Follow Khanyisa on Instagram @lifecoachkhanyi

And check out Khanyisa’s website

Want to hear more great conversations?

If you enjoyed this interview with Khanyisa Mnyaka you should check out prior episodes where I interviewed other queer female content creators.


I talked to Bandy Kiki about LGBT activism and being LGBT in Africa.

I talked to Stevie Boebi about the journey to becoming a lesbian influencer.

I talked to Jenn T. Grace about marketing to the lesbian community.

I talked to Dorie Clark about power, leadership and success.

I talked to Liz Culley about making lesbian friends, being bisexual in queer spaces, and feeling left out of the queer community.

And I talked to Merryn Johns about being the editor in chief of lesbian lifestyle magazine, Curve.