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Is she interested in you?

Do you know how to tell if a woman is interested in you?

Have you ever been unsure about whether someone you liked reciprocated your feelings?

Well this is a really big deal. Because pursuing women who aren’t truly interested in you is psychologically confusing, emotionally damaging and a huge waste of time.

So it’s important to avoid investing your energy and attention into women unless you can tell that she’s on the same page as you.

In order to figure out if a woman is excited about you in a romantic way, there are 5 important signs you can look for.

And I’m going to go through each of them one by one.

The first sign that a woman is interested in you is that she makes conversation…

When a woman is interested in you she will want to talk to you.

Whether it's in person or by phone or text, she'll make it easy for you to keep the conversation going.

She'll ask you questions because she's curious to learn more about you.

She’ll listen when you talk, because she’ll be wanting to know about you and your history and how your mind works.

If you meet a woman and she consistently tries to engage with you and get to know you better, that’s a very good sign that she likes you.

The second sign that a woman is interested in you is that she doesn’t torture you.

When a woman is interested in you she won't make you agonize for hours waiting for her to reply to your messages or calls.

Obviously not everyone is the kind of texter who responds instantly, but when a woman likes you she’ll be in touch within a reasonable amount of time because she respects you and she’ll be glad to hear from you and she’ll want to be in touch and stay connected.

The third sign that a woman is interested in you is that she shows up.

When a woman is interested in you she will want to spend time together.

She won’t be avoiding you because she’ll want to be around you.

She will say yes when you ask to see her, she’ll prioritize making plans with you, she'll be looking forward to seeing you, and she won’t cancel last minute.

The fourth sign that a woman is interested in you is that she doesn’t make excuses.

When a woman is interested in you she will be thoughtful and considerate.

When women are inconsiderate and thoughtless, and then later try to make excuses, it’s a big red flag that they are not really as interested in you as they want you to believe they are.

And the fifth sign that a woman is interested in you is that she tells her friends.

Women love talking about the person they like, when they like someone. When a woman is interested in you she will talk about you to the people she trusts, because she'll be excited about you and she'll want to share.

So those are the five most important signs to be looking out for.

If you’re pursuing a woman and she’s not making conversation, not showing up or making time, not raving about you to her friends – or if she’s making excuses and torturing you – that’s a bad sign.

Everyone has their moments and life happens and it’s normal for people we date to disappoint us in one of these ways here or there without it being a dealbreaker.

But if you’re consistently noticing a pattern of not being appreciated the way you deserve, then it doesn’t matter how amazing your chemistry is with her or how perfect she is on paper or what she says when she’s apologizing for canceling plans or taking forever to reply.

What matters is that you only pursue women who give you attention, who invest time and energy into you and who meet your needs.

There’s no reason to ever waste time on women who leave you feeling unsure or insecure or deprived, because even if you end up seriously dating, they won’t make you happy. And there’s no reason to ever settle because this world is full of beautiful, amazing queer women who would be just as excited about you as you are about them if you ever were to meet.

And you’ll be able to tell they’re excited about you by looking out for these five signs.

So until next time keep remembering that hot lesbians are everywhere, that love is real and that if you’re not already with the woman of your dreams, she’ll be showing up in your life in absolutely perfect timing.

With softness,

Jordana Michelle


If you want lesbian dating advice from me more often, follow me on Instagram @jordana.michelle.

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