“Self-love” is one of those terms that get thrown around a lot (especially in relationship advice blogs!)
But what does self-love actually mean, in practice?
Without self-love it’s harder for us to be as kind and good to ourselves as we’d be to the woman we're dating or partnered with.
Loving someone well is about showing up consistently and working through conflicts and forgiving mistakes and imperfections...
All of that takes time and attention and care.
These are things we do for the women we love, when we want to build a partnership…
But when we make the choice to consistently show up for ourselves (the way we would for the woman of our dreams) that’s when self-love can start to emerge, even if it wasn’t there before.
The problem is that most of us wouldn’t even know where to begin…
For most of us self-love isn’t automatic.
Most of us weren’t raised in environments where self-love was the “norm” and for most of us it wasn’t “modeled” by our caretakers or neighbors.
Self-love can feel impossible when we’ve never had it.
But it’s not impossible.
Self-love can be generated from nothing.
Well it turns out that generating self-love takes practice. It takes repetition of purposeful, ritualized practices…
And in this episode of Women Wanting Women I interview Coco McKenzi, who teaches exactly what some of those practices are.
Because, as Coco explains, we are our own greatest healers.
Coco McKenzi has been to hell and back. (*trigger warning*)
She was forced to learn what she knows about self-love after being raped and left without any support for how to heal from the relentless emotional and psychosomatic pain that nearly tore her apart in the aftermath.
Coco set out on a mission to figure out how to actually heal from sexual trauma because she realized she would otherwise suffer the rest of her life in unyielding, unbearable pain.
In this podcast episode Coco shares her story and teaches specific actions that really work for building self-love, regardless of what we’ve been through or how we feel about ourselves.
Coco McKenzi’s mission is to educate, empower, and create a positive impact around the world with a foundation of integrity, bravery, and true love.
Coco’s work is to help people heal from confusion and suffering to radical joy and pure fulfillment.
You can learn more about her workshops, courses and coaching at The McKenzi Institute